Fears of Parenting

There is truly no one way to parent a child. Both the husband and the wide will have different techniques or ideas about how to parent. Every child needs to be parented differently. This may seem like a lose-lose situation. It would be so easy to just google “how to be a good parent” and expect all the answers to fall in your lap… but instead you’ll find so many different views. For examples here are the top 10 most famous parenting quotes on Google:

“Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk.” –Carl Jung

“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands.” –Anne Frank

“If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent.” –Bette Davis

“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” –Frederick Douglass

“One thing I had learned from watching chimpanzees with their infants is that having a child should be fun.” –Jane Goodall

“The best way to make children good is to make them happy.” –Oscar Wilde

“When a man dies, if he can pass enthusiasm along to his children, he has left them an estate of incalculable value.” –Thomas Edison

“Children are apt to live up to what you believe of them.” –Lady Bird Johnson

“It is time for parents to teach young people that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.” –Maya Angelou

“Most things are good, and they are the strongest things; but there are evil things too, and you are not doing a child a favor by trying to shield him from reality. The important thing is to teach a child that good can always triumph over evil.” –Walt Disney

There you have it 10 different people giving parenting advice that is all different. There’s people telling you to be a good example and that’s enough. Then others suggest parenting needs to be fun and all about giving your children experiences. Some would argue that you need to be tough and raise strong kids. I don’t know about you but after reading through all those quotes I felt kind of bad for parents and how hopeless they probably feel at times. 

Instead of focusing on that though, I’d like to take the remainder of this post to discuss the positive influence parents can have on their kids. Parents have the opportunity to teach their children in all aspects of life. Parents can learn how to be someone’s main support and encourage their children to progress. Parents can spend time with their children and spouse, giving them time to experience new things. Parenting also allows for individual growth and self-responsibility. Parents can show their children how to be respectful and communicate with others. Parents have the responsibility to show their children what a marriage looks like and how to treat one another. Parents will be able to nurture, care for, and invest in their children which creates a secure attachment. Parents find ways to support their children's decisions as they start to become their own individuals. Parents can teach and show their children right from wrong. Parents can build a good, secure foundation for their children to grow up in, allowing for good memories and traditions to carry on with in their lives. Parents should also find times to be vulnerable and real with their children to help them understand life at times can be hard, but then show them how to work through it.

These are just some of the benefits of being a parent, that every parent has. It is up to the parents on how “productive” they will be and every child will react differently, but being a parent is such a great privilege. So much good can come from a good set of parents, which passes down to their kids, and so on and so on. Don’t be afraid to be a parent. Don’t be afraid of all the “advice” people give you as a parent. Do your best and take advantage of all the good you can do for your children, it will not go unnoticed.